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The Year of Love

Maybe this year will be the one

Temi's Laws of Love & Romance

2013 is steadily approaching and I would like to make a wish, resolution, promise, hope, dream what ever you want to call it!

I want this new year of 2013 to be the year of LOVE!

I want romance, dates, hot passion, sweet kisses, dream like encounters, thrusting, combusting, ripping, unzipping, slipping, wet skin, sweat on skin, silk and satin between hot skin, heat, laughter, full pleasure, unbridled passionate romantic embraces!

I want whispers, midnight telephone calls, midnight snacking, dawn erections, afternoon fornications, lazy days, active nights, bright mornings filled with breakfast in bed, dirty weekends, sex on the beach, hotel rooms where I don’t have to make the bed, luxury dinners in fine restaurants where I don’t have to pick up the bill.

I want friendships shared and continued, adventure and excitement to keep us young, family bonds, no secrets only between us, pride, hands held, public displays of…

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Where Am I?

Single again, I ponder where my life is taking me and where I’m going wrong in this relationship business.

I just ended a 2 year relationship and it was a great relationship but we had too much baggage, so much baggage that we couldn’t carry on together. He had issues with his family, past relationship, London, work, mid-life crisis etc. I had issues with not being married, not being pregnant and being insecure because I didn’t have these life achievements yet.

I’m still not married and I’m still not pregnant and I’m still insecure. I’m also very confused and slightly frightened, but not so much as I have been in the past. My faith is carrying me through and also just reminding myself of what I have to be grateful for. Everytime I switch on the TV or log-in to social media there is a huge reminder somewhere in the world that life could be worse, if it isn’t already. #Brexit #PresidentTrump #Syria.

My personal woes are no comparison for the world’s multitude of problems so I am proud of myself for not sinking into a pit of self-pity and being able to see things with mature perspective. Just taking a few moments out of your day to look at others and the world around you really helps to put things into perspective.

2017 has not gotten off to a good start for me but I am feeling really positive about the future and where it could possibly go. I can only hope and pray that the year will end much better than it began.

So the quest for a man continues. Well I say that but to be honest I’m not interested right now. I think I need to take some time to reflect and have fun and just love myself. I’ve been doing a lot of that recently, especially in the face of Valentine’s day. Treating myself to a cake, or a spliff, or a chocolate bar. Walking an extra 2000 steps to hit my daily pedometer target. Being badass at work and basically owning my role!

Self love is great!

I don’t know where I’m going in terms of my love life but in other areas I believe that I am doing really well. But it’s always the area that I’m not doing well that I focus on the most and obviously is the main focus of this blog. It’s not a food blog or a fashion blog. Actually I would probably love to write a music blog but I can’t keep up with the ever changing scene.

Anyway. My dreams are still the same. Find a lovely man, get married and pop out some beautiful babies. But I’m starting to realise that I have to be sure about who I am in this dream. What sort of wife and mother do I wanna be and am I really ready yet?

Time will tell.

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I keep thinking

I keep thinking about the last time that we were intimate and how complete I felt. The way you touched me roused me out of my slumber on the sofa and had my nipples standing to attention; aroused, ready, peaked, engaged. My body always responds so quickly to your touch I can’t even control it sometimes. Not that I want control. I enjoy being under yours.

I enjoy being under you.

The last time that we were intimate you had me face down so I couldn’t see what you were doing, I could only feel. Feel your warm hands spread my legs open. I swear I could feel your eyes on my most intimate place. She was bare. I felt your fingers caress me. My thighs and buttocks. I felt your warm breath and heard that noise you make when you’re enjoying me. I love that noise. I love you.

I keep thinking about how your finger slid inside me, gently, smoothly. Your other hand playing with my bum cheeks or were you rubbing my clit? Both hands made me quiver and clench around your finger.

That time you bent closer and I could feel your warm breath at my warmth…is that cheesy? She is warm though isn’t she, my pussy? Warm. Wet. Tight. Open. Your tongue and lips kissing, licking, sucking.

I keep thinking about how I moaned and came and came and came. All over your fingers and lips and mouth. I felt so free and unashamed. So safe and loved and sexy and present to that moment. I wasn’t thinking about anything else or anyone else. Just you and me doing adult things right at that moment.

I keep thinking about you.

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I’m Still in Love

Happy New Year all!

I’m still in love with my guy. 2015 was a wonderful, fulfilling and positive year, as I had hoped. He did not disappoint me at all. In fact he excited, surprised, pleased and made me fall in love with him over again. Ah life is GOOOOD!

2016 looks set to be another positive year as we’ve grown even closer and surprised each other with our happiness, I didn’t even realise you could be this happy and content. I will stop gushing…but not yet!

Is there a point to this post other than to share my good joy and happiness? Yes! It is to share my good joy and happiness so that those of you out there who are still single and looking for love in 2016 shall not give up!

Do not give up! Love is coming for you. Love is on the way and it is waiting for you to receive it. Keep your heart, mind and eyes open and your soul ready. Love will not come in the package you expect and it will most definitely hit you when you least expect it. Do not get caught up on someone’s race or age, as long as they are mentally, spiritually and financially stable, treat you really good, and the bedroom stays hot then you better go and get your life! My guy is not my usual type but damn he is blasting all of what I thought I wanted out of the window!!!

Love cannot be planned or put off, it cannot be controlled or summoned it will happen when it happens. The only thing that you can do right now is prepare yourself for it, be ready to receive it, and be open to let love in. I did so dating, crying, wondering, praying and emotional work when I was looking for a partner. When he appeared I was wide open spiritually that I just let him in as a friend and the rest all played out as if I was in a dream.

Work on your blocks to love, because believe me they exist and they are getting in your way. Work on your repetitive noise in your head, that little voice that is always judging you and everyone else before anything amazing can even take place. Work on yourself, building your self confidence and enjoying life as it is today; there are so many that didn’t make it to 2016 so thank God you’re here to see another day.

This is just advice as these are things I had to do and am still doing to enable love to come into my life and stay in my life. Now that I have been successful in finding a relationship I have realised that there is a whole different set of problems and issues I must work on. Finding a partner was never going to be the end of my story, just the end of the ‘being single and dating’ chapter. Now my relationship chapter is under way and I am learning new things about myself everyday.

I shall be posting more this year and sharing help, advice and uplifting stories to whomever wishes to read.

Stay blessed!

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I’m in Love

I’m in love.

Happily, sensibly, specially, wonderfully and wildly.

He’s taking up my time, my mind and my heart. It’s not this guy, it’s somebody else entirely. It started as a wild, sudden ‘affair’ but turned into something really surprising and heartwarming. It turned into love.

I’m happy and excited but I will start writing again and fill you all in on life, love and juicy hot stuff.

Life is so surprising, I remember this time last year I was online and going to all sorts of dating events trying to meet someone and then in the end it was someone I knew all along. Funny that.

This year promises to be very wonderful and fulfilling.

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I’ve Decided

A bit early in the game but I’ve picked a race and I’m going to run with guy 3. So far so good and I am open to giving him a chance as he has really got my mind and not just my physical. The more I’ve got to know him the more I am intrigued and his list of positives keeps growing, even the negatives don’t bother me.

Will this be the greatest love story of all time? Will we get married and raise a family in blissful happiness? Will I bear his last name? No-one knows, especially not me! But for now I am going to enjoy getting to know him.

Watch this space…


How do I Decide?

I’ve found myself in a bit of a conundrum of sorts. I’m currently dating/seeing 3 men at the same time. They are all wonderful in their own way and the greedy/single part of me wants to keep them all to myself but the mature/relationship part of me knows that I need to pick a race and run as my mum would say.

This weekend 2 of them asked me what do I really want in life, do I want to settle down or just keep having fun? It was weird that they should both ask me that as the third guy had brought this up last week as well. Obviously they can tell that my time is being divided and they aren’t getting enough of it.

I am deeply flattered that all 3 men want me to decide as this means they all want to be with me in a more serious way. At first things just happened so unexpectedly that I didn’t even have time to take a moment, let alone think about where any of this would lead. It was all so much fun and my senses were overwhelmed, I just wanted to feel not think, be stimulated not decide. Now I’ve been asked to think more deeply and I’m not sure what to do. But I am sure of one thing, I want love. I do. I want a real committed relationship and I shouldn’t let fear or too much fun get in the way.

Maybe I should list the positives and negatives.

Guy 1:

Met him on Tinder back in early June/late May and we hit it off instantly our shared love of the World Cup bringing us closer together.


  • He has so much chill – really cool guy, so laid back and easy to be around and talk to.
  • We partake in some shared interests, football, blazing, laziness.
  • Very communicative – he tells me everything and is open.
  • Funny
  • Gorgeous – he does actually have model features
  • Gentle, very considerate and kind.
  • Similar backgrounds


  • Not very ambitious
  • A bit too laidback – he spends a lot of time at home alone.
  • We never go anywhere fun
  • Lives quite far from me
  • Suspect friends
  • Not the best kisser
  • I can’t see a real serious future but maybe I’m jumping the gun.

Guy 2:

We met back in November last year and dated until January this year but had a bit of a barney and I cut contact, he randomly got back in touch after failed attempts to reach me and we hit it off again pretty instantly after I accepted his apology.


  • Also has a lot of chill, really cool
  • Also shared interests – music, travelling, blazing, movies
  • Huge – he could crush me with his bare hands which really turns me on.
  • Very good kisser
  • Amazing in bed – the chemistry is just great and effortless.
  • Strong silent type
  • Alot of ambition – studying for ACCA and working in accountancy and looking to buy a house.
  • Very complimentary and observant – he always notices and compliments me on my clothes or hair or nails.


  • A bit too silent sometimes, communication isn’t his strength.
  • Can be a bit immature sometimes.
  • Not as dominant as I like, wants me to lead the relationship.
  • Financially can be a bit shortcoming.
  • Lives at home – his mum is in and out of the country or his sister is always visiting which limits our time together, but then again I still live at home so I’m hardly one to talk.

Guy 3:

We met on a night out and immediately hit it off.


  • Ready for a relationship – like straightaway he wants us to be together.
  • Fun – he is toooo much fun, really the life & soul like me.
  • Tall and cute – physically he is very much my type…if I have one.
  • Communicative – calls and texts every day.
  • Ambitious – hardworking and serious about his career.
  • Intelligent and funny- he knows all the references to songs like I do, random but so cool and he is very sharp and witty.
  • Sweet and affectionate.


  • Talks too much – really does overtalk and sometimes about nothing or usually about himself.
  • Overly affectionate – sometimes he crowds my personal space.
  • Moving too fast – too ready to jump into a relationship with me, I need time.
  • Lives far away outside London – his new job took him away.
  • I don’t think we are sexually compatible.
  • Likes to lick my ears, gross.

So that didn’t make it any easier! Hmmm I guess I will give myself some more time and see how things go. Maybe in a month or two I will really know what or who I want…if someone new doesn’t come along that is.